The other morning I was rudely awakened from a really good dream. It was the kind of dream that normally would put you in a good mood for the rest of the day...you know, like you won the lottery, you were surrounded by all your loved ones and you were helping the world become a better place...all good things...that kind of dream. But mine was interrupted by 2 of my children fighting over who got to cuddle next to me.
This fight kept going on and on and neither one was going to give in. I was so frustrated because I just wanted to go back to sleep and keep dreaming about saving the world! After about twenty minutes of me trying to go back to sleep and them kicking and pushing each other and yelling their case that they should get to cuddle with me I finally sat up, glared at them, pointed my finger, and calmly with teeth clenched told them to go downstairs and watch t.v. "NOW."
Not the greatest way to start a day - for any of us. Their goal was to snuggle. Mine was to sleep. Both should have been a good thing. But because they were so frustrated, especially as children, they couldn't find any other solution besides fighting for what they wanted. Because I was rudely awakened and taken off guard I couldn't see or think of my normal solution to the same situation which has happened many times before. Normally, I would just roll over to the center of the bed and take one each side of me so both could snuggle with me. This time, however, I was so bothered by their argument and that they woke me from a good dream - and I wanted to go back to sleep so badly, that I couldn't think clearly or rationally. I only got caught up in the drama and ended the problem with my authority instead of with love and patience. Not a shining moment in my life as a mother.
After I had some time to cool down and consider this situation it occurred to me that so many times in our lives we can't see obvious solutions because we are too caught up the drama of the moment. Sometimes it's anger, sometimes emotional, but often all we can see is what we want instead of what the journey is presenting to us in that moment. No doubt the best thing to do is to stop motion of the e-motion, consider smiling, and look into the magic or miracle of the moment. When it comes to children we only have such a short time to enjoy them as children. Life in general isn't much longer - we may as well take the time to figure out the easier and more joyful solution, right? Probably that will end up being how we save the world...not through the bold, exciting, heroic dreams we have - shame on me for a missed opportunity - and may we all work harder to do better and be better to one another!